"he txtd me" He txtd me and said that I was cut3! Then he asked me for a pic; I took a selfy. Y not? He txtd me and said that I was "hott" and told me how he feels when he c's me at skool. I told him he was weird. He txtd me and asked to see me in my new swimsuit. The bois at the pool will see. Y not? He txtd me and said the picture "trnd me on." He said my body was gr8. He asked for another. w.e. He txtd me and cmplimentd me a lot and I felt btfl. He said he wanted to kiss me. Y not? He txtd me and wanted to see me nude. o_o lol K He txtd me and said he thought it might be fun . . . . I felt kinda weird. But it might be fun. Should I? Daddy. What happened? How did I get here? I never wanted this. I wish He never texted me. -AMBrewster- Written for "Parents, Kids, and Tech-tation."
We realize there’s nothing inherently “biblical” about this . . . but it was just too gorgeous not to share.
Forgive us. :-)
Skip to 00:30 for the beginning of the song.
You cannot have salvation, divine guidance, or peace unless God fills your vision.
“Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace,
whose mind is stayed on thee:
because he trusteth in thee.”
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I was homeschooled.
I know. Crazy, right?
In fact, my parents were those “weirdoes” who started homeschooling before it was hipster and intelligent.
We were on the front edge of the movement. We were the ones all of the crazy myths and rumors about homeschooling were either made about or thrown at.
Unfortunately, society hasn’t learned from its mistakes, and once again we encounter people who have stepped beyond ignorant into a category called “willfully ignorant.”
So is the case with the man who sent Matt Walsh an e-mail about homeschooling.
Here’s the email I received last week. I was saving it for today, as I’ll be speaking at a homeschool conference tomorrow:
*The subject line of this email was: “Not all public school teachers are the devil.”*
I’ve been a pretty decent fan of some of your writings, and while I don’t always agree I find that you sometimes have an entertaining way of presenting your opinion. Anyway, all due respect, I find myself having a hard time continuing to follow you now that I’ve gone back and read through your views on education.
It doesn’t so much bother me that you seem to be PROUD of your lack of a college education. You seem to be of the lucky few smart enough to get away with having no real education to speak of (congratulations). What I can’t reconcile myself with is your vitriol and hatred for public…
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I am sooooooooo thankful we didn’t have smartphones when I was in high school!!!!!!!
I don’t want to imagine the tangible trail of turgid travesties I would have traipsed across the internet!
Thankfully, that wasn’t a temptation I had to avoid (I had enough trouble avoiding plenty of others).
Not the First
Listen, I know I’m not the first to sound a siren call about young people and the threat technology represents. But I hope you’ll be patient with me for just a few moments as I share some insights I’ve gleaned from counseling teenagers addicted to sexual sin.
- Lust doesn’t need technology to flourish. Job tells us that he had to make a promise with his eyes not to lust after girls. Job is a book written about a family that predates Abraham! Lust exists in the heart of man, and sexual lust in particular needs only two things – a mind and an object. Please do not think that your children are safe from the temptation we’re discussing here simply because they don’t have a device.
- Technology is to sexual sin what airplanes are to world travel. They don’t make it possible, they make it easier. While driving down the road traveling about 45 miles an hour, I’ve often marveled at the amazing speeds we travel compared to the transportation of the past. Horse and buggy have nothing on today’s worst cars. As we’ve already seen, lust doesn’t need technology, but technology sure makes it easier to access it. When before a young man would have to sneak a copy of a dirty magazine, today he can anonymously view whatever forms of vile filth he wants from the comforts of his own bedroom.
- Too many parents are ignorant to what temptation technology affords. Did you know that the most grotesque scenes of human sexuality were available to anyone with an internet connection? Did you know your child can send and receive texts you will never know about? Did you know someone could send your child a nude picture of themselves, and you’d never be billed for it?
- Too many parents trust their children with technology. We don’t trust toddlers around ovens, scissors, and pools because of the inherent risk each poses. In addition, the proportionate immaturity of the child to the enhanced danger of the object increases our prohibitions. Yet we hand pre-pubescent, hormone-ridden, spiritually-immature young people a device capable of beaming wicked images into their brains, and we somehow justify this decision because our culture condemns us for not trusting our kids!
- When sin is finally found out (generally after much disaster has been wrought), parents cut the wrong cords. I’ve seen plenty of parents remove the child’s devices and cut all digital communication with the outside world. But the cord of lust is too often left untouched.
These are the problems I encounter nearly every time I counsel a young person engaged in sexual sins. But let’s not stop with the observations.
I think it’s fair to say I disdain criticism that provides no viable solutions just as much as you do. So please humor me a moment more while I address the very simple ways we as parents can help our children battle tech-tation.
Some Spiritual Solutions
- Understand lust. Smell its presence on your children’s breath. See its shadow on their bedroom floor. Watch how they interact with their peers. Do they touch each other? Where are their eyes resting? Understand the biblical root of lust, the consequences of lust, and the cure for lust. Did you know that sexual sins scar a person in different ways than others sins? Did you realize that last statement was Bible-truth (Proverbs 6)?
- Come to grips with the fact that when you hand your child a mobile device, you’re not merely making it easier to contact them. Understand the inherent dangers of the device. You would baby-proof a home; teenage-proof the phone.
- Research! There are a plethora of up-to-date articles like this one that are written specifically for parents to know how to protect their children, and what to protect them from.
- Stop trusting babies around the oven! Nowhere in Scripture is it mandated that a parent trust their child simply because they’re a teenager. Trust is a facet of love, but trust is never unwise in its trusting. You teach your children to use a knife before letting them wield their own. You teach them to drive before handing them the keys. Teach them about the device, teach them about lust. Let them mature, and the bless them with trust equal to their worthiness.
- Children need accountability. They need to be taught to live a Christ-honoring life in the middle of this corrupt world. Joseph didn’t need to be taken out of Egypt, he needed to worship God in Egypt. The device isn’t the real issue; the heart is. It may be necessary to cut the cordless device, but don’t ignore the deeper, more significant issue. Get counseling. Root out the lust and help the child desire what is right and good.
And just for making it this far, here’re two bonus points!
- Friend, follow, like, digg, and pin your kids. No, that wasn’t an admonishment to psycho-babble, espionage, digging graves, or voodoo dolls. You need to hang out where your kids hang out. Know who they know. Read what they read. Listen to what they listen to. How else do you hope to lead them through the mine field that is this life? Every single time I’ve encountered a young person feeding the flesh on social media, I’ve found a young person whose parents don’t know what Snap Chat or Instagram is. “I don’t use Facebook.” is not a legitimate excuse that somehow gets you off the hook! Is your child on Facebook? Then that’s reason enough for you to have an account . . . or at least to share a login with your child.
I know a set of parents who never would have known a boy in their daughter’s school was soliciting sexual favors from her had all of her incoming texts not also gone to their phones. Is that a scary proposition for you? Good.
- “Friend” your child in real-life too. Once again, no psycho-babble is intended here. What I mean is make these steps in their sanctification a you-and-them-together experience, not a you-against-them confrontation. Love them. Disciple them. Be on their side for God’s glory.
What’s at stake in this conversation is the spiritual life and Christ-honoring relationships of your children. Do not naively allow them to undergo the painful temptation technology brings to bear on their lust? Help them know what lust is and how to defeat it in their life with the truth of God’s Word. And then equip them with the spiritual weapons necessary to fight tech-tation.
For Your Consideration
"he txtd me" He txtd me and said that I was cut3! Then he asked me for a pic; I clicked a selfy. Y not? He txtd me and said that I was "hott" and told me how he feels when he c's me at skool. I told him he was weird. He txtd me and asked to see me in my new swimsuit. The bois at the pool will see. Y not? He txtd me and said the picture "trnd me on." He said my body was gr8. He asked for another. w.e. He txtd me and cmplimentd me a lot and I felt btfl. He said he wanted to kiss me. Y not? He txtd me and wanted to see me nude. o_o lol K He txtd me and said he thought it might be fun . . . . I felt kinda weird. But it might be fun. Should I? Daddy. What happened? How did I get here? I never wanted this. I wish he never txtd me. -AMBrewster-
I like fluffy bunnies.
I enjoy wearing fluffy socks.
And I love fluffy cotton candy.
But should our children’s programs be fluffy?
Kids4Truth wrote a great article about this phenomenon here:
But I’d like fluff-in for a minute, if I may.
Have you ever really considered the spiritual efficacy of singing “Deep and Wide”?
If you couldn’t already tell, I’m a very involved parent. I remember the first Sunday my son told me he sang “Deep and Wide” in Sunday School. I said, “That’s great! Do you know what that song means?”
After about a minute of blank stares, I clued him in.
There’s No G-Rated Version of the Bible
Have you ever noticed that though God has some specific instruction for children, there’s no kid-version of the Bible?
The Gospel’s the same.
The Spirit’s empowerment is the same,
The responsibilities for spiritual growth are the same.
With the exceptions of relationship-specific commands, the entirety of the Bible applies to children as it does to adults.
So why do our children’s ministries differ so much from the others in the church? Why do we feel the need to fluff our kids’ programs? Why do we even have children’s ministries?
Have you ever heard someone say, “But she’s only four.” as if that somehow excuses her brattiness? What about, “He’s going through a phase.” Am I allowed to use that excuse to sweep my behavior under the rug?
It’s obvious that children are different than adults in many ways (height notwithstanding), but do you realize that when it comes to God’s truth . . . there’re very few differences.
“But,” you say, “the Bible tells us that foolishness is bound in the heart of children! See, there are intrinsic differences!
Yes, but every other example of a fool in the Bible refers to adults. Foolishness resides in their hearts just as much. And just as the rod of correction will drive out the child’s foolishness, so does the rod to the back of the bigger fool.
In my years of ministry I’ve noticed that almost every single reason or source we cite to defend that children need something that adults don’t, or that we should treat them differently, comes from extra-biblical sources. It’s impossible to argue for a fluffy children’s ministry from Scripture.
None of the biblical injunctions for our mini-people can be used to argue for flannel boards or circle-games. Should children honor and obey their parents? Yes. But the only thing I can extrapolate from this command is that children should receive instruction from and submit to their parents. It has no bearing on their ability to understand the Bible or my necessity to use cute morality tales.
In fact, Jesus Himself told the group of men who followed Him that unless they became as a child they could not be converted! He told the apostles that unless they humbled themselves as children, they wouldn’t even understand God’s truth. Perhaps the adults are the ones who need flannel boards.
My point in all of this is simple. Many of the reasons we have a children’s ministry are simply unbiblical.
Don’t misunderstand me . . .
I’m all about a children’s ministry that exists for Christ-honoring, biblical reasons. Unfortunately, most of the time it’s a glorified baby-sitting service because mom and dad don’t want to have to deal with the children they haven’t taught to listen to and understand God’s Word.
Fluffy children’s ministries stand in opposition to the truth that God gives us everything we need for life and godliness from the pages of His Word and the power of a His Spirit . . . and it doesn’t matter how young the believer is! The Father still loves them in His perfection. The Son still died for them in His holiness. The Spirit still works in them to His fullest. They have the same gospel. They have the same responsibilities. They have the same Bible.
How do I check my ministry’s Fluff-Rating?
Do you avoid reading the actual words of the Bible? Isn’t paraphrasing good enough?
Do you find more value in an event or game than you do a lesson? Children won’t want to come to Sunday School if they won’t enjoy themselves!
Do you sing songs with little-to-no understandable spiritual application (“Father Abraham”), or do you sing songs with spiritual depth but forget to explain the concepts (“Deep and Wide,” or “The Wise Man Built His House Upon the Rock”)? Everyone knows “Father Abraham” was written to wear kids out before the lesson! How else can we expect them to pay attention?
Do you teach more missionary stories and Billy/Suzy illustrations than biblical truth? But missionary stories have more adventure than the Bible!
Do you promote morality without emphasizing the deeper reality of a relationship with God? Veggie Tales teach kids how to behave. Who needs doctrine?
Do you know what I find really interesting?
Churches with the most biblically sound children’s ministries promote kids sitting with their families in the main service, and the kids’ service times they do have resemble the adult services with informed worship, biblical exposition, and appropriate application . . . and they know how to have fun too.
“Foolish are the Flesh to Souls”
I asked a fish how birds can touch the clouds.
He gurgled out a laugh and said,
“Don’t be foolish, friend, no creature can!”
“But I know they do.” said I.
Yet he replied, “I never saw who did.”
I asked a bat how suns traverse the sky.
He winked a knowing eye and said,
“My boy, you ask the wrong question!”
“What should I ask?” said I?
“Please ask how ‘moons’ traverse instead.”
I asked a lion to eat some grass and had to dodge
His sworded paw. “No creature can survive not fed
On meat, you idiot! Now be my treat!”
“I’d rather live.” said I.
And questioned not how sure he was none did.
I asked a bird how fish can never breathe the air.
The bird so arrogantly said,
How simple you are to believe such things.”
“Why’s that?” said I.
“No bird has proved a fish can live without a breath.”
And so I ceased my questioning of those who cannot know.
Ability and experience cannot alone
Answer all the things that lie outside the home
We call these bones.
As foreign are the fish to birds, so foolish are the flesh to souls.