Who is My Mother?

Happy Mothers’ Day!

Mothers come in all states and prizes. Which kind of mother are you: biological, step, adopted? Or are you the kind of mother Jesus introduced us to in Matthew 12 and Mark 3?

This type of mother is the most unique on the planet, and there are more people in this category than you may think.

“While He was still speaking to the crowds, behold, His mother and brothers were standing outside, seeking to speak to Him. Someone said to Him, ‘Behold, Your mother and Your brothers are standing outside seeking to speak to You.’  But Jesus answered the one who was telling Him and said, ‘Who is My mother and who are My brothers?’” Matthew 12:46-48

Which of you mothers wouldn’t feel at least a little offended to hear your son ask this question as you struggled to get to him? After all of the diapers, baths, games, money, and let’s not even mention child-birth! How dare he be so calloused!

However, Jesus was sinless and not capable of being rude or calloused (this is an important reminder that just because we may feel offended, it doesn’t mean we should). Instead, with further study we realize that Jesus is teaching us a valuable lesson about blood, water, and spirit.

The fleshly bonds of blood relations are greatly idolized in our culture. I don’t fault anyone for this state of mind as I too feel more affectionate for my family than I do most other homo sapiens.

Still, the spiritual reality is that the spiritual is a stronger reality. Consider Christ’s explanation:

“And stretching out His hand toward His disciples, He said, ‘Behold My mother and My brothers! For whoever does the will of My Father who is in heaven, he is My brother and sister and mother.’” Matthew 12:49-50




It’s hard to say what Mary believed about her son at this time in His life, but we know for certain that His brothers did not yet believe in Him. Regardless of her faith in the Messiah, there is no one in this life more dear to a believer than a brother and sister in Christ. Not even blood.

What does this mean for the biological, the step, and the adopted mother? It means that the greatest gift a mother can give to her children is to be first and foremost their spiritual family. Whether this means accepting Christ as your Lord and Savior or introducing your children to Him, or both, there is no greater relationship you can have with your kids.

The sweet kiss of a mother soothes the scraped knee and makes nightmares flee. But there is nothing sweeter or stronger than a mother who is also a sister in Christ.