The world has perverted sexuality to the point where it’s almost unrecognizable . . . but it’s only going to get worse. What should you be doing to prepare your children for the future of sexuality? Join AMBrewster and he describes the problem and proposes biblical solutions for your family.
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Our society has been seeing dynamic change in “culturally acceptable sexuality” since the 1960’s. Things slowed down a bit in the 80’s and part of the 90’s, but for the past twenty years sexuality has come roaring back to the forefront of nearly every headline, blog post, and YouTube video primarily because of the pressure homosexuals have put on the media.
Our children are now being led to believe that a lifestyle that was viewed as abnormal, perverted, and/or sinful for thousands of years is now the generally accepted norm. And it only took about 40 years.
I’m not here today to debate homosexuality. I’ve been plenty verbal about that one on Evermind Ministries’ blog – Taking Back the Bible. In fact, I’m not here to make any comment on where we’ve been or even where we are today when it comes to our thoughts on sex.
I want to focus instead on the future. I want to make a prediction.
But more on that in a minute.
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Alright, now back to my prophecy.
A number of years ago I predicted on Facebook that if homosexuals won the legal right to “marry,” people with all sorts of aberrant sexual fantasies would come from miles around looking for their piece of the pie. I proposed that gay “marriage” would be remembered by history as little more than the gateway drug for a dynamic sexual revolution in America. And though I had gay-rights advocates booing my prophecy, it didn’t take long for my prediction to come true. It took less than a year before I was able to write an article which referenced the fulfillment of my prediction. I called it, “Um, I Told You So.” I’ll link it in the description if you’re interested in checking it out.
So, now I’m going to broaden my foretelling. Here it goes.
I believe that – barring an act of God – your children will see the following forms of sexuality legalized (or at least generally accepted) in their lifetime.
Polygamy is three or more people “marrying” each other. Of course, true marriage in the sight of God can only occur between one man and one woman, but there are plenty of religious charlatans and greedy politicians who say marriage is only a piece of paper. And in a culture where you can watch TV shows about polygamists and where three lesbians can get “hitched,” it doesn’t take Nostradamus to guess that it won’t be long before the government realizes that laws against polygamy were instituted by people who believed in God (which is obviously outdated and crazy), and that there’s really nothing “wrong” with it as long as everyone’s a consenting adult; because “wrong” is what we make of it!
And speaking of “consenting adults,” would you believe that the University of Cambridge hosted a conference a few years ago where the following was said and applauded,
“Paedophilic interest is natural and normal for human males.”
“At least a sizeable minority of normal males would like to have sex with children . . . . Normal males are aroused by children.”
Again, what’s to stop a nation who rejects God’s standards of morality from lowering the age of consent? We already know that American elementary schoolers are participating in sex acts – things which have been hammered into their skulls by the entertainment industry. Apart from God’s Word, if I have “data” that says sexual activity among children isn’t harmful, why wouldn’t I allow adults to have sex with consenting children?
Again, I’m not here to argue the plethora of reasons why this is obviously sinful, but I am here to say that I believe the age of consent will be lowered in America before I die.
Certainly no country would ever allow incestual relationships! Everyone knows those are bad!
But Judge Garry Neilson said
“A jury might find nothing untoward in the advance of a brother towards his sister once she had sexually matured, had sexual relationships with other men and was now ‘available’, not having [a] sexual partner.”
In light of the genetic abnormalities that can form in incestuous relationships, the same Australian judge said,
“But even that falls away to an extent [because] there is such ease of contraception and ready access to abortion.”
Ladies and gentlemen, both God’s Word and history have shown us that mankind devolves into lower and lower sexual perversions. And we cannot forget that America is like the younger sibling of the world – when something becomes readily acceptable in Europe, America isn’t too far behind.
Each of the aforementioned sexual perversions is stomach turning, but this last one takes the cake. And I know that most people you know would find this completely disgusting, but more and more people in our culture find sexual intercourse between humans and animals to be okay, and they’re willing to fight for that right in court.
Listen, I don’t like to have to say this, but there will likely come a day when your Christian children are being persecuted openly in the streets of our most formerly conservative towns, and people will call our faith disgusting. We’re looking down the barrel of that gun now, and when it comes in full force we will be able to show everyone that God’s Word predicted this would happen and even laid out the consequences. Yet even though none of us deserve His grace, He willingly offers forgiveness, salvation, and eternal change!
Lord willing, my prediction will be wrong.
But I don’t think so.
Listen as I read Romans 1:24-32
“God gave them over in the lusts of their hearts to impurity, so that their bodies would be dishonored among them. 25 For they exchanged the truth of God for a lie, and worshiped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen.
26 For this reason God gave them over to degrading passions; for their women exchanged the natural function for that which is unnatural, 27 and in the same way also the men abandoned the natural function of the woman and burned in their desire toward one another, men with men committing indecent acts and receiving in their own persons the due penalty of their error.
28 And just as they did not see fit to acknowledge God any longer, God gave them over to a depraved mind, to do those things which are not proper, 29 being filled with all unrighteousness, wickedness, greed, evil; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, malice; they are gossips, 30 slanderers, haters of God, insolent, arrogant, boastful, inventors of evil, disobedient to parents, 31 without understanding, untrustworthy, unloving, unmerciful; 32 and although they know the ordinance of God, that those who practice such things are worthy of death, they not only do the same, but also give hearty approval to those who practice them.”
At the same time, I do want to end with a word of sanctified optimism.
God can do anything and everything He sees fit. We have seen great spiritual awakening and revival many times in this nation. Perhaps the Lord will see fit to use His people to affect such a change before I die. That would be amazing, and I would be happy to be proven wrong.
Remember, my prediction can only come true “barring an act of God.”
May we all be used as that act of God.
Of course, today the real concern is not what the world is going to do, but what we need to do to prepare our children from the attack. We’ve looked a lot lately at the multiple Failure Philosophies the world preaches and the numerous pulpits is preaches them from.
Today, let’s focus on how to prepare your three year old, your thirteen year old, and yes, even your twenty-three year old. The idea that you’re no longer responsible to parent you child when they hit 18 is not a biblical concept.
So, here goes.
1. Talk about biblical sexuality early and often.
For decades, the “birds and bees” was an awkward discussion had in an awkward way at an awkward time because no one wanted to deal with it – and they didn’t really know how. May I say, that was an atrocity. In fact, I’m going out on a limb to say that parents not talking about sexuality from a biblical perspective early and often helped to lay the groundwork for the sexual revolution. Christian parents weren’t telling theirs kids about sex, so the world did it for them.
I understand your hesitancy. The idea of introducing a potentially destructive thing like sexuality into the pure mind of an otherwise innocent child is petrifying. But it’s also a lie. None of the things I just said are true.
- The major untrue thing I said was to paint sexuality as an impure, destructive entity. Sexuality is just like everything else in this world – it was created to be a perfect and beautiful part of the human experience, but sin has corrupted it. Yes, it can be used to destroy, but when we scare kids into thinking that sex is wicked, we’re lying to them about how God created them and the plan He has in store for them.
- Another major lie we try to convince ourselves of is that our children’s minds are “pure.” Your child’s mind isn’t pure. It’s full of selfish lusts. And if you define “pure” as free of sexual thoughts, you may be surprised that they’re not that either. As we’ve discussed in episode 25 – God created us to be sexual beings within the right relational context, and we’re not 100% certain when those drives and desires kick in. For some children, they start thinking sexual thoughts around puberty, but for others, it can happen as early as kindergarten or sooner. I’m not even talking about the things they’ve been exposed to from the outside. I’m just discussing the natural desires and thoughts that organically arise in a child’s mind because they’re human. I know that’s daunting to consider, but we mustn’t fool ourselves into thinking they are “innocent” just because they’re young. I think most of us just need to pause and try to remember our first sensual thoughts.
- The third lie I spoke was the idea that I’ll be the first one to introduce sexuality to my children. That’s impossible. It doesn’t matter is you homestead in Montana, there will always be husbands and wives who kiss, babies being born, barn dances, and countless other looks, posturing, films, songs, and books that hint at, flirt with, and subconsciously point to a sexual reality in all human beings.
Please, do not avoid the topic of sexuality with your kids because you don’t want to be the first to sully their pristine minds with wicked thoughts of sex. None of that is true.
I’ve been introducing sexuality to my children since they were old enough to understand language. The key isn’t whether to deal with it, the key is how. And as long as you deal with it biblically, there’s plenty of material in the Bible itself, and plenty more material that was founded on it.
As an example, you can’t get through the first few chapters of Genesis before you encounter men, women, nakedness, marriage, sex, sin, shame, and child-bearing. Allow the Scriptures to be your starting point as you train your little ones in God’s Word. You are already going through Genesis with them? Right?
But there are also great books that provide a script. Larry Christenson wrote a book called, “The Wonderful Way that Babies are Made.” I’ve recently worked my children through it, and it’s fantastic.
Barrett Johnson at infoforfamilies.com is another Christian man who’s trying to give you all the information you need to discuss this vital topic with your kids.
Of course, I’ll provide links to all of this in the descriptions, and I would encourage you to leave a comment below about the material your family has found that helps pave the way for a Christ-honoring discussion about sexuality.
So first we need to be talking about it early and often, but second, we need to encourage others to talk about it early and often.
2. We need to encourage others to talk about sexuality early and often.
Not only has Christian culture convinced us that we shouldn’t talk about sexuality with our kids, we’ve totally outlawed anyone talking to our kids about sexuality.
I’ve preached in Christian schools where sexuality was completely off the table for anyone – including the teachers and preachers in the school.
I’ve met parents who refuse to send their children to purity conferences like the ones that evangelist Ben Schettler organizes.
This is a travesty! We need trustworthy men and women speaking Truth into our children’s lives. Why would we forbid them from addressing this topic?
Because we’re afraid.
But God has not given us a spirit of fear. He’s provided us a spirit of love and a sound, mature mind. Yes, we need to be wise, but why do we shy away from this topic? The world is pushing it down their throats!
I live in the Northwoods of Wisconsin, fifteen minutes past nowhere. I need to drive 45 minutes into another state to get to the closest Walmart. And yet, we have seen all of the following at Walmart: teens making out, homosexual couples, a man dressed as a woman, magazines featuring pictures and copy all about sex, music that discusses sex, posters, movies, books, games, and makeup advertisements using sex to sell. And we were only there for 45 minutes!
We must not fail our children in providing them a substantial, foundational, unmovable, and unashamedly biblical groundwork for sexuality.
We need to speak that truth into their lives and we need to enlist other God-fearing men and women to do the same.
Christians are losing this battle, and we’re losing it because we’re ill-equipped and afraid. But the world system has all of it’s bullet-points orchestrated perfectly with it’s entertainment system to keep their philosophy of sex ever before your children . . . regardless of the age. Homosexuality, pornography, polygamy, incest, transgenderism, and pedophilia and just some of the issues your children will and are being faced with in every imaginable venue.
If you take you child to Barnes and Noble, swing through the children’s section, and head straight to the cash registers, your kids will see a number of things, not the least of which is a Playboy magazine sitting right there at their eye level.
So, I’ve made my prediction, and I’ve delivered my challenge, but I’m also offering to help.
And never hesitate to reach out to us at counselor@EvermindMinistries.com. We have men and women standing by to answer your questions and connect you with people in your area who can help.
Our God is good. He will have the victory! And despite the darkness of this world, He wants to use you to do amazing things in the life of your family!