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How to Be the Best Everything

This is Mr. Brewster’s last opportunity to host Day Camp Weekly. And though the information shared there is very specific to the Schaumburg Christian Day Camp family, this last video has something very special for everyone.

Please take these words to heart.

Sleepovers: Helpful or Hurtful?

Sleepovers: Helpful or Hurtful

A number of Christian authors recently spent the night at a friend’s house, made some bad choices, and decided to write about sleepovers.

Either that, or yet another group of authors have children getting old enough to be invited to one. Either way, the articles are posting, the questions are swirling, and the opinions are fluctuating. Should we let our kids sleepover at other people’s houses? If so, which houses are okay and which aren’t?

Lisa Cherry’s article, “What To Do About Sleepovers” is tremendously helpful because it provides a great list of considerations that not everyone thinks about. I would also like to share three additional observations I believe will be beneficial to the conversation because they come from a sphere of experience that not a lot of parents have access to. Continue reading “Sleepovers: Helpful or Hurtful?”

Dear Dads, Are We Worth Celebrating?

Dear Dads, Are We Worth Celebrating?

I love celebrating.

But I hate celebrating people/events that aren’t worth it.

A two-year old who successfully uses the toilet may be entitled to an M&M. A seventeen year old is not.

Who Cares?

You’re dad. So am I. But whether or not we deserve Father’s Day is a completely different matter.

  1. It takes relatively little effort to become a biological father. And, admittedly, it’s kinda fun. So, I’m not impressed that we’re sperm donors. In fact, this act is so easy that it’s daily taken for granted.  Every day countless children are massacred because a baby was created accidentally. We’re biological fathers . . . big deal
  2. I’m also not amazed that we put food on the table, a roof over their heads, or clothes on their backs. Let me admit that I am typing specifically with the typical American dad in mind when I say that providing the basic necessities of life isn’t so momentous that it’s worthy of its own special day. It’s called doing your job. Please also remember that this is coming from someone who (according to the US government) makes enough money to qualify me for the title “in poverty.” Providing basic (or lavish needs) = not worthy of celebrating.
  3. We’re the “men of the house.” This phrase is extremely subjective, but basically it means that when we speak, people move. It doesn’t take into consideration the way we speak or what we say, it just sums up the fact that we’re the boss and the people in our homes do what we say. They have another day to celebrate these people. It’s called “Hug a Dictator Day.”

None of this is deserving of national notice.

Continue reading “Dear Dads, Are We Worth Celebrating?”

#TBTB #TBT – Skanky Movie III

ThrowBack Thursday

This week we asked Mr. Brewster to write the introduction to his introduction to Douglas Wilson’s “Skanky Movie III.”

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I’m a counselor.

I work with children and parents every day.

Not a day goes by that I don’t think, I’d love to help this kid, but the greatest help I can be to them is to help their parents.

Yes, children are responsible for their own choices, and mom and dad are not solely to blame for the way their children turn out . . . but I think statements like this are touted far too often by people who are blinded to the role they do play in encouraging their children down the wrong roads.

We parents need to own the very significant part we play in all of this.

“Skanky Movie III” by Doug Wilson is a wonderful little article that reminds dad and mom how our wrong thinking can set our children up for trouble.

Please enjoy “Skanky Movie III.”

Credit Where Credit is Due & Skanky Movie III

Is Blood Really Thicker than Water?

I have extended family members who hold the belief that there’s no one more important than family.

They’re willing to sacrifice as many hours as it takes and suffer deleterious economic consequences all for family.

They’re even willing to compromise God’s truth to keep “peace” in the family.

Unfortunately, this view of family is anti-biblical.
Continue reading “Is Blood Really Thicker than Water?”

The Most Important Thing I Can Say to Mom: and dad too

The Most Important Thing I Can Say to Mom

You’re a parent.

Nine months of new experiences, discomfort, pain, and joy ushered you into the shimmering sphere of parenthood.

Since then, depending on how old your children are, you’ve experienced twenty strollers full of new difficulties, learning experiences, hardships, and happiness.

Whether you chose to educate your children formally or not, you’ve inevitably distilled and instilled more life lessons into them than potentially any other human being ever will.

And for this cause, parents like you have been celebrated in literature, video, blogs, memes, tweets, vines, and graffiti.

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And yet, the question must be asked – what qualified you to be a parent?

Continue reading “The Most Important Thing I Can Say to Mom: and dad too”

“Behold: the two absolutely worst arguments against homeschooling” – Matt Walsh

I was homeschooled.

I know. Crazy, right?

In fact, my parents were those “weirdoes” who started homeschooling before it was hipster and intelligent.

We were on the front edge of the movement.  We were the ones all of the crazy myths and rumors about homeschooling were either made about or thrown at.

Unfortunately, society hasn’t learned from its mistakes, and once again we encounter people who have stepped beyond ignorant into a category called “willfully ignorant.”

So is the case with the man who sent Matt Walsh an e-mail about homeschooling.

Enjoy!

The Matt Walsh Blog

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Here’s the email I received last week. I was saving it for today, as I’ll be speaking at a homeschool conference tomorrow:

*The subject line of this email was: “Not all public school teachers are the devil.”* 

Hi Matt,

I’ve been a pretty decent fan of some of your writings, and while I don’t always agree I find that you sometimes have an entertaining way of presenting your opinion. Anyway, all due respect, I find myself having a hard time continuing to follow you now that I’ve gone back and read through your views on education.

It doesn’t so much bother me that you seem to be PROUD of your lack of a college education. You seem to be of the lucky few smart enough to get away with having no real education to speak of (congratulations). What I can’t reconcile myself with is your vitriol and hatred for public…

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Parents, Kids, and Tech-tation

Tech-tation

I am sooooooooo thankful we didn’t have smartphones when I was in high school!!!!!!!

I don’t want to imagine the tangible trail of turgid travesties I would have traipsed across the internet!

Thankfully, that wasn’t a temptation I had to avoid (I had enough trouble avoiding plenty of others).

Not the First

Listen, I know I’m not the first to sound a siren call about young people and the threat technology represents. But I hope you’ll be patient with me for just a few moments as I share some insights I’ve gleaned from counseling teenagers addicted to sexual sin.

  1. Lust doesn’t need technology to flourish. Job tells us that he had to make a promise with his eyes not to lust after girls. Job is a book written about a family that predates Abraham! Lust exists in the heart of man, and sexual lust in particular needs only two things – a mind and an object. Please do not think that your children are safe from the temptation we’re discussing here simply because they don’t have a device.
  2. Technology is to sexual sin what airplanes are to world travel. They don’t make it possible, they make it easier. While driving down the road traveling about 45 miles an hour, I’ve often marveled at the amazing speeds we travel compared to the transportation of the past. Horse and buggy have nothing on today’s worst cars. As we’ve already seen, lust doesn’t need technology, but technology sure makes it easier to access it. When before a young man would have to sneak a copy of a dirty magazine, today he can anonymously view whatever forms of vile filth he wants from the comforts of his own bedroom.
  3. Too many parents are ignorant to what temptation technology affords. Did you know that the most grotesque scenes of human sexuality were available to anyone with an internet connection? Did you know your child can send and receive texts you will never know about? Did you know someone could send your child a nude picture of themselves, and you’d never be billed for it?
  4. Too many parents trust their children with technology. We don’t trust toddlers around ovens, scissors, and pools because of the inherent risk each poses. In addition, the proportionate immaturity of the child to the enhanced danger of the object increases our prohibitions. Yet we hand pre-pubescent, hormone-ridden, spiritually-immature young people a device capable of beaming wicked images into their brains, and we somehow justify this decision because our culture condemns us for not trusting our kids!
  5. When sin is finally found out (generally after much disaster has been wrought), parents cut the wrong cords. I’ve seen plenty of parents remove the child’s devices and cut all digital communication with the outside world. But the cord of lust is too often left untouched.

These are the problems I encounter nearly every time I counsel a young person engaged in sexual sins. But let’s not stop with the observations.

I think it’s fair to say I disdain criticism that provides no viable solutions just as much as you do. So please humor me a moment more while I address the very simple ways we as parents can help our children battle tech-tation.

Some Spiritual Solutions

  1. Understand lust. Smell its presence on your children’s breath. See its shadow on their bedroom floor. Watch how they interact with their peers. Do they touch each other? Where are their eyes resting? Understand the biblical root of lust, the consequences of lust, and the cure for lust. Did you know that sexual sins scar a person in different ways than others sins? Did you realize that last statement was Bible-truth (Proverbs 6)?
  2. Come to grips with the fact that when you hand your child a mobile device, you’re not merely making it easier to contact them. Understand the inherent dangers of the device. You would baby-proof a home; teenage-proof the phone.
  3. Research! There are a plethora of up-to-date articles like this one that are written specifically for parents to know how to protect their children, and what to protect them from.
  4. Stop trusting babies around the oven! Nowhere in Scripture is it mandated that a parent trust their child simply because they’re a teenager. Trust is a facet of love, but trust is never unwise in its trusting. You teach your children to use a knife before letting them wield their own. You teach them to drive before handing them the keys. Teach them about the device, teach them about lust. Let them mature, and the bless them with trust equal to their worthiness.
  5. Children need accountability. They need to be taught to live a Christ-honoring life in the middle of this corrupt world. Joseph didn’t need to be taken out of Egypt, he needed to worship God in Egypt. The device isn’t the real issue; the heart is. It may be necessary to cut the cordless device, but don’t ignore the deeper, more significant issue. Get counseling. Root out the lust and help the child desire what is right and good.

And just for making it this far, here’re two bonus points!

Bonus Points

    1. Friend, follow, like, digg, and pin your kids. No, that wasn’t an admonishment to psycho-babble, espionage, digging graves, or voodoo dolls. You need to hang out where your kids hang out. Know who they know. Read what they read. Listen to what they listen to. How else do you hope to lead them through the mine field that is this life? Every single time I’ve encountered a young person feeding the flesh on social media, I’ve found a young person whose parents don’t know what Snap Chat or Instagram is. “I don’t use Facebook.” is not a legitimate excuse that somehow gets you off the hook! Is your child on Facebook? Then that’s reason enough for you to have an account . . . or at least to share a login with your child.

I know a set of parents who never would have known a boy in their daughter’s school was soliciting sexual favors from her had all of her incoming texts not also gone to their phones. Is that a scary proposition for you? Good.

  1. “Friend” your child in real-life too. Once again, no psycho-babble is intended here. What I mean is make these steps in their sanctification a you-and-them-together experience, not a you-against-them confrontation. Love them. Disciple them. Be on their side for God’s glory.

What’s at stake in this conversation is the spiritual life and Christ-honoring relationships of your children. Do not naively allow them to undergo the painful temptation technology brings to bear on their lust? Help them know what lust is and how to defeat it in their life with the truth of God’s Word. And then equip them with the spiritual weapons necessary to fight tech-tation.

For Your Consideration

"he txtd me"

He txtd me
and said that I was cut3!
Then he asked me for a pic;
I clicked a selfy.
Y not?

He txtd me
and said that I was "hott"
and told me how he feels
when he c's me at skool.
I told him he was weird.

He txtd me
and asked to see me in
my new swimsuit.
The bois at the pool will see.
Y not?

He txtd me
and said the picture "trnd me on."
He said my body was gr8.
He asked for another.
w.e.

He txtd me
and cmplimentd me a lot
and I felt btfl.
He said he wanted to kiss me.
Y not?

He txtd me
and wanted to see me nude.
o_o
lol
K

He txtd me
and said he thought it might be fun . . . .
I felt kinda weird.
But it might be fun.
Should I?

Daddy.
What happened?
How did I get here?
I never wanted this. I wish
he never txtd me.

-AMBrewster-

he txtd me

“I am afraid of this indisputable pro-choice argument” – Matt Walsh

If you’re not prepared to A. logically support your own beliefs, or B. extrapolate out and live with the consequences of your belief . . . you should really just go back to sucking your thumb.

Matt does a FANTASTIC job of answering the utterly inane and asinine attack of this pro-choice advocate.

Well done, Matt.