T.L.P. Episode 38: The Communication House | God’s plan for family talk

Communication is one of the top three causes of family strife. Today we discuss how your family talk can glorify God today – learn the correct talk and correct the wrong talk.

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T.L.P. Episode 37: Parenting a Terrorist | what to do when your child explodes

Screaming, kicking walls, and threats of suicide can shake any parent to their core. How can God expect us to be Ambassador Parents in the face of a terrorist attack from our own children?

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T.L.P. Episode 28: A Prediction Concerning Sexuality in Your Children’s Generation | the problem and the cure

Truth Love Parent A Prediction Concerning Sexuality in Your Children’s Generation | the problem and the cureThe world has perverted sexuality to the point where it’s almost unrecognizable . . . but it’s only going to get worse. What should you be doing to prepare your children for the future of sexuality? Join AMBrewster and he describes the problem and proposes biblical solutions for your family.

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T.L.P. Episode 20: Ten Things Parents Miss

4-logo-20Today’s list of “10 Things Parents Miss” is more than just cigarette butts and porno mags. Join us for some insight from Mark Massey, the director at Victory Academy for Boys.

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TLP 9: It Only Takes a Generation to Die

Truth.Love.Parent. 9Will your zeal for Christ pass on to your kids? What about their kids? What can you do to give your children the best spiritual chance possible?

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T.L.P. Episode 4: Don’t Lose Your Influence!

TLP 4How does parenting die?

When parents lose the ability to influence their children, no real parenting can take place.

At Victory Academy for Boys, AMBrewster works with families like this all the time. Today he’d like to share with you 5 biblical facets of influence that you must engage daily if you want to continue having influence in the life of your child.

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Weekend Update: 2/21/15

Weekend Update

This coming week Mr. Brewster and Mr. Massey have an amazing opportunity to take the guys from Victory Academy snowshoeing in northern Wisconsin.

Please pray for this time; adventure camping in God’s beautiful, snow-crusted creation provides many chances to apply God’s Truth to key areas in a young man’s life.

Also, be on the lookout for Mr. Brewster’s Feature Article on Monday.

Have a great weekend!

Worship God in spirit and Truth,

The Evermind Staff

“10 Things Parents Miss” – Mark Massey

On August 16th of last 2014 I packed up my family, drove five hours into the Northwoods of Wisconsin, and joined forces with Mark Massey, executive director of Victory Academy for Boys.

The program is amazing.

There’s no more effective disciple-making paradigm than the family. That’s why the counseling format at Victory takes at-risk boys and injects them into an already functioning family. The boys live, sleep, eat, play, study, and grow in a house with a mom, dad, and siblings. They are trained from God’s Word how to glorify Him at the table, in the bathroom, at school, during a hike, in front of the TV, and in the hallways.

As a Residence Counselor (House Dad) at Victory I see the amazing opportunities intentional disciple-making parenting afford. But I also understand how many parents miss those opportunities when they don’t consider their child to be “at-risk.”

Mark Massey’s written a great article called “10 Things Parents Miss.” If you think it’s another list of “cigarette butts and porno mags,” you’re desperately mistaken. This is an outline of significant, biblical principles and mandates that parents frequently ignore in their child-rearing.

Check out the article below and visit Victory’s website. Your son may not be at-risk, but you may know a boy who is . . . and we’d love to help.


 

“Ten Things Parents Miss” by Mark Massey

Many of the teens in our Christian homes are leaving behind the practice of their faith: “Six out of ten twenty-somethings were involved in a church during their teen years, but have failed to translate that into active spirituality during their early adulthood” (Barna Group). We need revival in the work of raising the next generation for God!

1. Humility is the key

The parents’ worldview is critical to the success of parenting. How can we tell who is at the center of our worldviews, ourselves or God? Easy. We just evaluate what we do when things don’t go our way. Particularly, how do we respond when a child doesn’t do right? Pride demands that we have our own way, that the child submit to us. Humility may demand the same action or attitude, but since the focus is not on “my way,” but on the child’s desperate need to walk in God’s ways, the attitude—which teens do read—is very different.

2. Parenting as a team

The greatest gift we can give our teens is a secure home. The marriage relationship is the foundation of a child’s world. When mom and dad have their disagreements in private and present a unified, consistent direction, teens are more secure.

3. Honest evaluation

How often I have heard, “My son is really a good boy; he has a good heart.” The reality is that all of our hearts gravitate toward sin! (Jer. 17:9) We all think more highly of ourselves than we ought. Honestly recognizing the deep hold of sin in the human heart is essential to guiding our children. Without that, the parents let their protective boundaries fail, and the teen is at great risk.

4. Reaching the heart

We must get past behavior modification, the linking of good behavior to a reward (like getting a drivers license) or punishment (getting grounded). Reward and punishment are biblical, but they are not the totality of God’s plan. With only those, we get teens who calculate the cost: is the fun of disobedience worth the pain of the punishment—and they conclude “yes” all too often.

5. THE main point

The world talks about the parent-centered approach vs. the child-centered approach. Both fail. The main point of parenting is to produce a God-worshiping adult (Eph. 6:1-4).

6. The blindness of immaturity

Teens naturally must try new things as they grow. However, the danger is that, in their inexperience, they may experiment with things that bring bondage.

7. The value of values

Hypocrisy is intolerable. It eats away at the soul as cancer eats at the flesh. We and our teens must do the right deed for the right reason: Bible-based, God-honoring values at the core of our being.

8. Strategic planning

Do we have a more definitive plan for our finances than we do for our families? To develop character in our children, we need to plan the process and have tangible goals, That is, we can see whether or not there is progress. Ephesians 6 calls us to bring our children through the process of maturing spiritually. We need to write down each child’s unique set of needs (spiritual, emotional, relational, physical), the methods of meeting the needs, and what observable action or condition would indicate success.

9. Communication and problem solving

The power of biblical communication results from five values. Communication works when we are honest, current, edifying, kind, and forgiving (Eph. 4:21-32).

10. The importance of family

Enjoying the gift of family is not an extra, it is a God-designed part of success. Casual, fun times are vital to the training and disciplining process. The sense that being family is a positive thing is a platform for the ministry of parents (Psalm 78; Deut. 6). The idea that a little “quality time” is enough is a myth. In giving children the quantity of time that they crave, you find the quality time happen. It cannot be commanded to appear on cue.

Weekend Update – 2/7/15

Weekend Update

This weekend Mr. Brewster is on a three-day youth retreat at Camp Chetek. He’s been enjoying the messages, skiing, and interacting with the campers.

On Monday he’s going to introduce us to Chetek’s retreat speaker, Mark Massey. Mr. Massey is also the executive director of Victory Academy for Boys where Mr. Brewster now ministers.

So, look out for Monday feature “10 Things Parents Miss” and get introduced to Victory Academy for Boys.

Sincerely,

The Evermind Staff

 

Weekend Update: 9/6/14

Weekend UpdateWeekend Update from AMBrewster:

Victory Academy is officially open and we have a couple students arriving today. Staff training has been awesome, and we’re all very excited about ministering to the families He’s sending our way.

Of course, it’s always interesting to see how God doesn’t always give us what we think we “need.” That is to say, we don’t have as many students signed up as we’d like, but we’re trusting that enrollment will go up as our Lord sees fit.

As you think to pray for us, please make that matter a focus of your prayers. In fact, here’s a short prayer list for those of you burdened to pray for me, my family, and our new ministry.

  1. Pray that God would send us the perfect amount of students.
  2. Pray that God would provide just the right renter at just the right time for the Brewster’s home in Illinois.
  3. Pray that everyone involved responds in faith even if things don’t happen the way we think they should.

I’m very excited to start a new Sunday Sermon Series, and cannot wait to get back to writing more frequently.

Sincerely,

AMBrewster